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Jennifer Omaka's avatar

"Looking back, I am grateful for the privilege that comes with being able to take a leap of faith as immense as quiting my job but I cannot deny the fact that I could take it because I am single and childless. My responsibilities do not breathe oxygen. I will be fine, largely."

👆🏾This is definitely my favorite part of this write up. When someone asked why I quit my job without a backup plan, I simply said—why not? I’m allowed to take a break. That’s the whole point of working hard, saving, and investing—to have the freedom to step away when I need to.

I recognize that I could make this choice because I don’t have dependents. My responsibilities don’t breathe oxygen. And I’ll be fine—more than fine, actually. It was the best 6 months of my life.

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Aloaye's avatar

I fully agree. We are allowed to take breaks for the sake of it. God knows I could use several breathers, so I took one.

Thanks so much for reading and sharing your thoughts.

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Gimbiya Bitiyong's avatar

What a beautiful post and such a brave thing to do. And really, words I needed to hear as I think about what is best for me and my future. You'll be fine. Of that, I am certain 🩷

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Aloaye's avatar

Thanks so much, Gimbiscuits and cookies. I'm really grateful.

I'm rooting for you all the way. It will all work out.

♥♥♥

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Michael Isokpehi's avatar

I used to wonder why no one warns you of the distance between leg and floor, the in-between; which constitutes a very large part of life. But I find there’s really no way to communicate certain things. Some things have to be viscerally experienced to be understood.

When Nigerians reduce the whole of life’s journey into expressions like “omo!”, “it is well”, “wetin dey this life?”, it’s not from a place of ignorance or shallowness but from mastery of paneling profound truths into a form that is flat, easy-to-carry yet heavy with meaning.

I hope you go gentle on yourself as you try to untie the knots and I hope you come out the other side better- whatever that means for you.

Good luck.

It is well. Haha

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Aloaye's avatar

With time, I have learned that a lot of NIgerian sayings are compact with truth that can only be learned from personally experiencing and coping with "issues". A learning curve that demands stoic silence and lessons that cannot be communicated easily.

Somehow, in the midst of all this chaos and anxiety, I know that everything will work out fine.

Thanks so much, man.

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Ore Oroge's avatar

Way too relatable. Thank you!

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Aloaye's avatar

Thanks so much, Ore.

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Oladaiye Oluwatobiloba's avatar

All I needed to take that leap of faith

Thanks mister dan❤️

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